tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36995335948945888332024-03-13T13:15:30.123-07:00Sue Scheff: Articles Teen PregnancyParent's Universal Resource Experts (P.U.R.E.)Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.comBlogger62125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3699533594894588833.post-10240874883523818232009-06-11T05:49:00.000-07:002009-06-11T05:53:55.675-07:00Sue Scheff: The Talk: It's More than Just SexSource: <a href="http://www.thenationalcampaign.org/parents/relationships.aspx">National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy</a><br /><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_wqHnyL-kgD8/SjD9513GqkI/AAAAAAAAHHg/B_APoQ2aTlI/s1600-h/teenpregday.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 110px; FLOAT: left; HEIGHT: 93px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5346051927841352258" border="0" alt="" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_wqHnyL-kgD8/SjD9513GqkI/AAAAAAAAHHg/B_APoQ2aTlI/s320/teenpregday.jpg" /></a><br /><br />In our conversations with young people about sex, pregnancy, and family formation — aka, the dreaded "Talk" — we parents too often leave out one of the most important topics of all: healthy relationships. Simply put, young people often get the textbook definitions on how to reduce the risk of pregnancy and STDs — by waiting to have sex or by using contraception — but they're rarely given guidance on how to successfully navigate the minefield of relationships. Remember that the lessons they learn from their relationships as teenagers will be the foundation of the relationships they form as adults.<br /><br /><br /><br />Here are some suggestions we think might be helpful in conversations you should have with your sons and daughters.<br /><p>Click here: <a href="http://www.thenationalcampaign.org/parents/relationships.aspx">http://www.thenationalcampaign.org/parents/relationships.aspx</a></p><p> </p><p> </p>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3699533594894588833.post-5958091863254296912009-05-06T06:47:00.000-07:002009-05-06T06:48:47.995-07:00<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_wqHnyL-kgD8/SgGU6yElF7I/AAAAAAAAGyo/zCdVj0QP-8s/s1600-h/prevteenpreg.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5332707171377682354" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 116px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 80px" alt="" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_wqHnyL-kgD8/SgGU6yElF7I/AAAAAAAAGyo/zCdVj0QP-8s/s320/prevteenpreg.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div>Source: <a href="http://www.thenationalcampaign.org/">National Campaign To Prevent Teen Pregnancy</a> </div><div><br /><strong>May 6, 2009 is the National Day to Prevent Teen Pregnancy. How do you score? Take the National Day Quiz and find out.</strong></div><div> </div><div><br /><a onclick="stayteen();" href="http://www.stayteen.org/quiz">Take the National Day Quiz </a><br /><a onclick="stayteen();" href="http://www.stayteen.org/quiz/widget.aspx">Grab the National Day widget</a><br /><a onclick="stayteen();" href="http://www.stayteen.org/quiz/assets/2009_ND_teen_guide.pdf" target="_blank">Teens</a><br /><a href="http://www.stayteen.org/quiz/assets/2009_ND_parent_guide.pdf">Parents</a><br /><a href="http://www.thenationalcampaign.org/national/pdf/2009/2009_ND_obama_message.pdf">http://www.thenationalcampaign.org/national/pdf/2009/2009_ND_obama_message.pdf</a> - Letter from President Obama.</div><div><br />Hundreds of thousands of teens nationwide are expected to participate in the eighth annual National Day to Prevent Teen Pregnancy on May 6, 2009. The purpose of the National Day is straightforward. Too many teens still think “It can’t happen to me.” The National Day helps teens understand that it can happen to them and that they need to think seriously about what they would do in the moment.</div><div><br /><a href="http://suescheffblog.com/2009/05/sue-scheff-the-national-day-to-prevent-teen-pregnancy/">Read more here.</a></div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3699533594894588833.post-45507856731820594392009-04-27T08:51:00.000-07:002009-04-27T08:55:31.808-07:00Sue Scheff: Teens and Birth ControlSource: <strong><a href="http://teenshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/contraception/contraception.html">TeensHealth</a></strong><br /><br />One of the toughest decisions that a lot of teens face is whether to have sex. If people decide to have sex, it means they must also take responsibility to protect themselves from unplanned pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases (STDs).<br /><br />In the United States, the teenage pregnancy rate is higher than in many other countries. Approximately 1 million teens become pregnant every year and most didn't plan on becoming pregnant. In addition to preventing unplanned pregnancies, people who have sex must protect themselves from STDs. For those having sex, condoms must always be used every time to protect against STDs.<br /><br />The most effective way to prevent pregnancy and STDs is document.write(defabstinence120) <a class="definition" onmouseover="doTooltip(event,msgabstinence120)" onmouseout="hideTip()">abstinence</a>. Couples who do decide to have sex can choose from many effective birth control methods.<br /><br />Check the articles below to learn some important information about different methods of birth control. You may be surprised — some popular ones aren't as effective as people might think.<br /><br /><a href="http://teenshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/contraception/contraception_patch.html">Birth Control Patch</a><br /><a href="http://teenshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/contraception/contraception_birth.html">Birth Control Pill</a><br /><a href="http://teenshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/contraception/contraception_ring.html">Birth Control Ring</a><br /><a href="http://teenshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/contraception/contraception_depo.html">Birth Control Shot</a><br /><a href="http://teenshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/contraception/contraception_cap.html">Cervical Cap</a><br /><a href="http://teenshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/contraception/contraception_condom.html">Condom</a><br /><a href="http://teenshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/contraception/contraception_diaphragm.html">Diaphragm</a><br /><a href="http://teenshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/contraception/contraception_emergency.html">Emergency Contraception</a> (Morning-After Pill)<br /><a href="http://teenshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/contraception/contraception_implantable.html">Implantable Contraception</a><br /><a href="http://teenshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/contraception/contraception_iud.html">IUD</a><br /><a href="http://teenshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/contraception/contraception_rhythm.html">Fertility Awareness</a><br /><a href="http://teenshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/contraception/contraception_spermicide.html">Spermicide</a><br /><a href="http://teenshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/contraception/contraception_withdrawal.html">Withdrawal</a>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3699533594894588833.post-39725342938396765342009-03-30T06:35:00.000-07:002009-03-30T06:37:23.958-07:00Sue Scheff: Girl Sex Boundaries<a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_wqHnyL-kgD8/SdDK5aQlVcI/AAAAAAAAGkU/Xw2ASW0Bf4g/s1600-h/girlsex.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5318974247574787522" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 120px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 90px" alt="" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_wqHnyL-kgD8/SdDK5aQlVcI/AAAAAAAAGkU/Xw2ASW0Bf4g/s200/girlsex.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div>Source: <a href="http://www.connectwithkids.com/tipsheet/2002/73_may22/sex.html">Connect with Kids</a></div><br /><div></div><br /><div>At parties, in school parking lots or when they’re just hanging out, girls are often pressured by boys to “fool around” and have sex. But now more than ever, girls are gaining the confidence to answer their male counterparts with a resounding “no.”<br /><br />“It might be hard the first couple of times, but after you keep that standard for yourself all the time, then others will learn to accept it,” says Tasleem Jadabji, a teen.<br /><br />“Just standing up for yourself over time will help give you that confidence,” adds her friend, Shoba Reddy-Holdcraft.<br /><br />According to an analysis of survey data published in Context, a journal of the American Sociological Association, more girls are prolonging sexual abstinence and influencing boys to do the same.<br /><br />“Guys are becoming more … tolerant, patient and aware of the fact that there are girls who don’t want to have sex and that the pressure is not going to change their minds,” Kristen Baker says.<br /><br />“By doing that, they learn that you’re serious, so they take you more serious and you gain their respect, and you respect them for respecting you,” adds Courtney McIntosh.<br /><br />The study’s findings reveal that girls are even becoming more outspoken about who they are and what they want.<br /><br />“Girls are starting to watch programs that empower them, that say, ‘Hey, it’s OK to be free to respect your body, to respect yourself,’ and I think they’re also becoming more aware that not everyone is having sex,” says Sharina Prince, a health educator.<br /><br />And sex isn’t the only area where girls are drawing the line.<br /><br />“We don’t just go along with whatever, and we speak our minds more instead of just letting someone else tell us what to do about everything, what to wear, what we should do, who we should hang out with,” Courtney says.<br /><br />Experts say that parents can play a key role in helping their teens make positive health decisions by giving them two powerful weapons: self confidence and knowledge.<br /><br />“In developing or establishing a really positive relationship so that the teen feels empowered and feels like they understand, have an understanding about sexuality education,” Prince advises. </div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3699533594894588833.post-89378572915446532232009-03-08T07:53:00.000-07:002009-03-08T07:59:19.221-07:00Sue Scheff: Girls and Sex<a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_wqHnyL-kgD8/SbPdGCqE4hI/AAAAAAAAGeE/AXAdaGrXSLg/s1600-h/girlssex.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5310831481462252050" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 120px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 90px" alt="" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_wqHnyL-kgD8/SbPdGCqE4hI/AAAAAAAAGeE/AXAdaGrXSLg/s200/girlssex.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div>Source: <a href="http://connectwithkids.com/">Connect with Kids</a></div><br /><div><br />"It might be hard the first couple of times, but after you keep that standard for yourself all the time, then others will learn to accept it."-Tasleem Jadabji, a teen-</div><br /><div><br />At parties, in school parking lots or when they’re just hanging out, girls are often pressured by boys to “fool around” and have sex. But now more than ever, girls are gaining the confidence to answer their male counterparts with a resounding “no.” “It might be hard the first couple of times, but after you keep that standard for yourself all the time, then others will learn to accept it,” says Tasleem Jadabji, a teen. “Just standing up for yourself over time will help give you that confidence,” adds her friend, Shoba Reddy-Holdcraft.</div><br /><div></div><br /><div>According to an analysis of survey data published in Context, a journal of the American Sociological Association, more girls are prolonging sexual abstinence and influencing boys to do the same. “Guys are becoming more … tolerant, patient and aware of the fact that there are girls who don’t want to have sex and that the pressure is not going to change their minds,” Kristen Baker says. </div><br /><div></div><br /><div>“By doing that, they learn that you’re serious, so they take you more serious and you gain their respect, and you respect them for respecting you,” adds Courtney McIntosh. The study’s findings reveal that girls are even becoming more outspoken about who they are and what they want. “Girls are starting to watch programs that empower them, that say, ‘Hey, it’s OK to be free to respect your body, to respect yourself,’ and I think they’re also becoming more aware that not everyone is having sex,” says Sharina Prince, a health educator. </div><br /><div></div><br /><div>And sex isn’t the only area where girls are drawing the line. “We don’t just go along with whatever, and we speak our minds more instead of just letting someone else tell us what to do about everything, what to wear, what we should do, who we should hang out with,” Courtney says. </div><br /><div></div><br /><div>Experts say that parents can play a key role in helping their teens make positive health decisions by giving them two powerful weapons: self confidence and knowledge. “In developing or establishing a really positive relationship so that the teen feels empowered and feels like they understand, have an understanding about sexuality education,” Prince advises.<br /><br /><a name="tips"></a><strong>Setting Sexual Boundaries<br /></strong>By Kim Ogletree CWK Network, Inc. </div><br /><div><br />Teenage girls who set the sexual boundaries in a relationship may be a growing trend, according to new research based on national surveys of the sexual habits of teens. The study, published in the American Sociological Association’s journal Context, reveals that girls are convincing more boys to prolong sexual abstinence until they are in a serious relationship. Study co-author Barbara Risman, a sociologist at North Carolina State University, says that more boys are staying virgins longer and “starting their sex lives with their girlfriends.” “Girls have been able to create a sexual culture in high schools where the boys will be stigmatized if they’re ‘players,’” adds study co-author Pepper Schwartz, a sociologist at the University of Washington. The study’s findings, based on survey results compiled by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, included the following statistics:</div><br /><div><br />The percentage of sexually active black teens fell from 81.5% to 72.7% from 1991-1997.<br />Among whites, the number declined from 50.1% to 43.7%; among Latinos, the drop was 53.1% to 52.2%. </div><br /><div><br />The number of high school boys under 18 who engaged in sexual activity dropped 5.7% from 1991 to 1997. </div><br /><div><br />Teen pregnancy rates dropped 17% from 1990 to 1996.<br />Teen abortion rates dropped 16% from 1990 to 1995. </div><br /><div><br />So why are more teens waiting longer to have sex? Some experts believe that girls are becoming increasingly aware of the risks involved in sexual activity – including pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) – due to abstinent campaigns and a surge in positive messages about self-esteem. The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services cites these additional statistics and facts that may help curb teenage sexual activity:</div><br /><div><br />More than 1 million teens become pregnant each year.<br />Young girls have more problems during pregnancy.<br />Babies of young, teen mothers are more likely to be born with serious health problems.<br />Sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) are at epidemic levels. </div><br /><div><br />Some STDs are incurable. They may cause pain, sterility or sometimes even death.<br /><strong><br />What Parents Need to Know</strong> </div><br /><div><br />While it is important to talk with children about sex and sexuality, parents are often unsure of how to begin such open communication. Children Now and the Kaiser Family Foundation offer these tips for having a positive conversation with your child about sexual relationships:<br />Explore your own attitudes: Studies show that children who feel they can talk with their parents about sex are less likely to engage in high-risk behavior as teens than children who do not feel they can talk with their parents about the subject. Explore your own feelings about sex. If you are very uncomfortable with the subject, read some books and discuss your feelings with a trusted friend, relative, physician or clergy member. The more you examine the subject, the more confident you’ll feel discussing it. </div><br /><div><br />Start early: Teaching your child about sex demands a gentle, continuous flow of information that should begin as early as possible. As your child grows, you can continue his or her education by adding more materials gradually until he or she understands the subject well. </div><br /><div><br />Take the initiative: If your child hasn’t started asking questions about sex, look for a good opportunity to bring up subject. </div><br /><div><br />Talk about more than the “birds and the bees”: While children need to know the biological facts about sex, they also need to understand that sexual relationships involve caring, concern and responsibility. By discussing the emotional aspect of a sexual relationship with your child, he or she will be better informed to make decisions later on and to resist peer pressure. </div><br /><div><br />Give accurate, age-appropriate information: Talk about sex in a way that fits the age and stage of your child. </div><br /><div><br />Communicate your values: It’s your responsibility to let your child know your values about sex. Although he or she may not adopt these values as he or she matures, at least your child will be aware of them as he or she struggles to figure out how he or she feels and wants to behave.<br />Relax: Don’t worry about knowing all of the answers to your child’s questions. What you know is a lot less important than how you respond. If you can convey the message that no subject, including sex, is forbidden in your home, you’ll be doing just fine. </div><br /><div><br />According to the American Medical Association (AMA), teens who have high self-esteem and self-respect make more responsible health choices. As a parent, you can help your teen develop respect in the following ways:</div><br /><div><br />Allow your teen to voice opinions.<br />Allow your teen to be involved in family decisions.<br />Listen to your teen’s opinions and feelings.<br />Help your teen set realistic goals.<br />Show faith in your teen’s ability to reach those goals.<br />Give unconditional love. </div><br /><div><br />Whether your child is thinking about having sex or engaging in other risky behaviors, you can take steps to help him or her make an informed decision. By following these tips from the AMA, your child will realize that you want to help:</div><br /><div><br />Allow your teen to describe the problem or situation. Ask how he or she feels about the problem. Ask questions that avoid “yes” or “no” responses. These usually begin with “how,” “why” or “what.” Really listen to what your teen is saying, instead of thinking about your response. Try to put yourself in your teen’s shoes to understand his or her thoughts. </div><br /><div><br />Talk with your teen about choices. Teens sometimes believe they don’t have choices. Help your teen to see alternatives. </div><br /><div><br />Help your teen to identify and compare the possible consequences of all of the choices. Ask your teen to consider how the results of the decision will affect his or her goals. Explain (without lecturing) the consequences of different choices.<br /><br /><a name="resource"></a>Resources<br /><a href="http://www.ama-assn.org/" target="_blank">American Medical Association</a> </div><br /><div><a href="http://www.asanet.org/" target="_blank">American Sociological Association</a> </div><br /><div><a href="http://www.childrennow.org/" target="_blank">Children Now</a> </div><br /><div><a href="http://www.kff.org/" target="_blank">Kaiser Family Foundation</a> </div><br /><div><a href="http://www.hhs.gov/" target="_blank">U.S. Department of Health and Human Services</a> </div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3699533594894588833.post-64582266622267270842009-02-22T07:04:00.001-08:002009-02-22T07:18:56.684-08:00Sue Scheff: Teen Pregnancy<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_wqHnyL-kgD8/SaFpeGU8pbI/AAAAAAAAGY8/aSzljHAGv6o/s1600-h/kidshealth.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5305637801834620338" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 200px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 88px" alt="" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_wqHnyL-kgD8/SaFpeGU8pbI/AAAAAAAAGY8/aSzljHAGv6o/s200/kidshealth.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div>Source: <strong><a href="http://kidshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/girls/sex_during_period.html">KidsHealth</a></strong></div><div></div><div>Can a girl get pregnant if she has sex during her period?<br />– Jamie*<br /><br />A lot of people think that if a girl has sex during her period, she can't get pregnant. But it is possible for a girl to get pregnant while she is bleeding. This can happen for a couple of reasons:<br /><br />Not all vaginal bleeding is the result of a menstrual period. Sometimes a girl will have a small amount of vaginal bleeding at the time of ovulation — the time when she is most fertile. During ovulation, an egg is released from one of the ovaries and travels down a fallopian tube to the uterus. It's common for girls who are ovulating to have some vaginal bleeding that can be mistaken for a period. </div><div><br />Sometimes ovulation can occur before the bleeding from a girl's period has stopped, or it may occur within a few days after her period is over. Sperm can fertilize an egg for several days after ejaculation. So in both cases, having sex before the period is finished can result in pregnancy.<br />Having unprotected sex at any time is very risky. Along with the chance of becoming pregnant, there is also the risk of getting a sexually transmitted disease (STD), such as chlamydia, genital warts, or HIV. The only surefire way to prevent pregnancy and STDs is abstinence. If you do have sex, use a <a href="http://kidshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/contraception/contraception_condom.html">condom</a> every time to protect against STDs. And talk to your doctor about additional forms of contraception.<br /><br />For more information, check out these articles: </div><div><br /><a href="http://kidshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/contraception/contraception.html">About Birth Control: What You Need to Know</a><br /><a href="http://kidshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/contraception/bc_chart.html">All About Menstruation<br />Birth Control Methods: How Well Do They Work? </a><br /><a href="http://kidshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/contraception/contraception_condom.html">Talking to Your Partner About Condoms </a><br /><a href="http://kidshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/stds/std.html">About Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs) </a><br /><br />*Names have been changed to protect user privacy. </div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3699533594894588833.post-42309260107231407392009-02-12T08:03:00.000-08:002009-02-12T08:08:05.881-08:00Parents Universal Resource Experts - Sue Scheff - Power Moms<a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_wqHnyL-kgD8/SZRJOQCt-xI/AAAAAAAAGVU/HADJ2KsvOnU/s1600-h/powermomsunite.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5301943170495281938" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 200px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 46px" alt="" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_wqHnyL-kgD8/SZRJOQCt-xI/AAAAAAAAGVU/HADJ2KsvOnU/s200/powermomsunite.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div>I love stumbling over great new parenting websites - and what a name - <a href="http://www.powermomsunite.com/">Power Moms Unite </a>- Founder, <a href="http://www.powermomsunite.com/about/">Candace McLane </a>offer a wide variety of articles, thoughts, tips, parenting resources and more on ADHD. As a mother of an ADHD son, I really enjoy this site. Check her <a href="http://www.powermomsunite.com/">Blog</a> out too - great up to date info!</div><br /><div><br /><a href="http://www.powermomsunite.com/what-is-a-power-mom/">What is a Power Mom??</a></div><br /><div><br />Power Moms are moms working to successfully balance the needs of child, family, and self. Some work outside the home, balancing a career with the needs of their child, family and personal self. Other moms are working from home, managing families while managing a small home-based business or managing large families and a homeschool. There are a wide range of us- all power moms- looking to do our best at our many hats as mom- be that nuturer, coach, educator, cheerleader, psychologist, disciplinarian, party arranger, role-model, etc. The roles are vast and numerous, the balance often difficult to strike. This site hopes to empower these moms by providing timely, valuable and informative resources for celebrating family life and successfully managing ADHD.</div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3699533594894588833.post-11058396247359304292009-01-23T14:55:00.000-08:002009-01-23T14:57:23.775-08:00Sue Scheff: Teen Pregnancy<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_wqHnyL-kgD8/SXpLM5ZMX9I/AAAAAAAAGK0/c6ct_-P3ROs/s1600-h/teenpreg.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5294626996864442322" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 111px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 78px" alt="" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_wqHnyL-kgD8/SXpLM5ZMX9I/AAAAAAAAGK0/c6ct_-P3ROs/s320/teenpreg.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div>Teen birth rates up? Parents need to take steps to learn why - what can they do to help their young teens understand having a child is not easy. Before you are faced with this difficult and sensitive situations, continue opening communication about sex as well as contraceptives. Years ago a young teen getting pregnant seemed like the worst possible situation - now having unprotected sex can not only lead to <a href="http://suescheffblog.com/2008/12/sue-scheff-teenage-pregnancy/">pregnancy</a> and big decisions for young teens, but <a href="http://suescheffblog.com/2009/01/sue-scheff-hiv-testing-for-teens/">deadly diseases</a>. <a href="http://www.sue-scheff.org/">Take time to learn more</a>.</div><br /><div><br />Source: <a href="http://connectwithkids.com/">Connect with Kids</a></div><br /><div><br />“It does give them another way to look at themselves, and to look at their bodies as a powerful force and not just sort of ornamental.”<br />– Laura Mee, Ph.D., Child Psychologist.</div><br /><div><br />One girl gives birth to a baby. Another plays basketball with her brother. What’s the connection?<br />Studies show girls who play sports are less likely to have sex and less likely to get pregnant. One reason may be these athletes gain confidence and respect for their bodies.</div><br /><div><br />“It does give them another way to look at themselves, and to look at their bodies as a powerful force and not just sort of ornamental,” explains child psychologist, Dr. Laura Mee.</div><br /><div><br />Experts say experiencing pressure on the court gives them the strength to resist pressure from a boyfriend. And, in their free time, it gives them something else to focus on besides how they look, “Their hair, their clothes, their, like reputation… mostly all they want to do is impress the boys,” says 12-year-old Claire.</div><br /><div><br />What’s more, studies have found that athletic girls have higher self-esteem, better grades and less stress.</div><br /><div><br />So, experts say, encourage your daughters to get involved in sports and then cheer them on. “Make it as important that your daughters have sporting events as you would for your son that you treat them as equally as you possibly can, that you support and encourage and that the other children, whether they are male or female, support and encourage each other in their sports activities,” says Mee.<br /><a id="references" name="par"></a><br /><strong>Tips for Parents</strong></div><br /><div><br />Sex is something parents should constantly discuss with their teens, but you should really give your teens “the talk” before summer and Christmas vacation. According to one study, teens are much more likely to lose their virginity during the months of June and December than any other time of the year. Almost 19,000 adolescents in grades seven through twelve participated in the survey, which identified the month they had sexual intercourse for the first time. The survey also asked if the act was with a romantic partner or was more “casual.”</div><br /><div><br />The findings, published in the Journal of Marriage and Family, show June as the most popular month, followed closely by December. Summer and Christmas vacations are believed to be the cause with school out and teens with time on their hands. More events are also planned in June, including high school proms, graduations and summertime parties. The “holiday season effect” makes December the second highest month for teen sex. Experts explained that during the holidays, young females in relationships are more likely to have sex. The holidays usually bring people together and make them closer. The same is true with teenagers.</div><br /><div><br />All studies indicate messages from parents regarding sex are extremely important to teens (Washington State Department of Health). In fact, teens state parents as their number one resource for information on the topic. This talk may be uncomfortable for many parents, so the National Parent Teacher Association (PTA) has provided the following tips for parents:</div><br /><div><br />Practice. It may take practice to feel comfortable talking about sex with your kids. Rehearsing with a friend or partner can help. Be honest. Admit to your child if talking about sex is not easy for you. You might say, “I wish I’d talked with you about sex when you were younger, but I found it difficult and kept putting it off. My parents never talked to me about it, and I wish they had.” </div><br /><div><br />Pay attention. Often parents do not talk to their teens about sex because they did not notice they wanted or needed information. Not all teens ask direct questions. Teenagers are often unwilling to admit they do not know everything. Notice what is going on with your child and use that as a basis for starting a conversation about sexual topics. </div><br /><div><br />Look for chances to discuss the sexual roles and attitudes of men and women with your child. Use television show, ads and articles as a start. </div><br /><div><br />Listen. When you give your full attention, you show that you respect your child’s thoughts and feelings. Listening also gives you a chance to correct wrong information they may have gotten from friends. As you listen, be sensitive to unasked questions. “My friend Mary is going out on a real date,” could lead to a discussion of how to handle feelings about touching and kissing.<br />Parents can also share their feelings on the topic through words and actions. The best way is to talk to teens. Even though it may seem like they are not listening – they are. To have a healthy and effective discussion on sex, the Advocates for Youth Campaign encourages parents to:<br />Educate yourself and talk with your children about issues of sexuality. Do not forget about discussing the importance of relationships, love, and commitment. </div><br /><div><br />Discuss explicitly with preadolescents and teens the value of delaying sexual initiation and the importance of love and intimacy as well as of safer sex and protecting their health. </div><br /><div><br />Encourage strong decision-making skills by providing youth with age-appropriate opportunities to make decisions and to experience the consequences of those decisions. Allow young people to make mistakes and encourage them to learn from them. </div><br /><div><br />Encourage teens to create a resource list of organizations to which they can turn for assistance with sexual health, and other, issues. Work together to find books and Web sites that offer accurate information. </div><br /><div><br />Actively support comprehensive sexuality education in the schools. Find out what is being taught about sexuality, who is teaching it, and what your teens think about it. </div><br /><div><br />Actively voice your concerns if the sexuality education being taught in local public schools is biased, discriminatory, or inaccurate, has religious content, or promotes a particular creed or denomination. </div><br /><div><br />Demonstrate unconditional love and respect for your children.<br /><a id="references" name="ref"></a><br />References<br />Advocates for Youth Campaign<br />Journal of Marriage and Family<br />National Parent Teacher Association<br />Washington State Department of Health </div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3699533594894588833.post-40375208354804337772009-01-02T07:12:00.000-08:002009-01-02T07:13:42.142-08:00Sue Scheff: Where Do Teens Turn for Medical Advice<a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_wqHnyL-kgD8/SV4vEaypDgI/AAAAAAAAF3k/1vug41Z8Kio/s1600-h/teenmedicaladvice.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5286714765537250818" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 67px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 50px" alt="" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_wqHnyL-kgD8/SV4vEaypDgI/AAAAAAAAF3k/1vug41Z8Kio/s200/teenmedicaladvice.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div>Source: Connect with Kids<br /><br />“I had irritation in my special ‘no-no’ place. And that was a question that I wasn’t going to ask my mom.”<br /><br />– Sheaele, Age 17<br /><br />So where do teenagers like Sheaele turn when they want a health question answered? Sometimes friends, sometimes teachers… and according to a new survey, nearly half of teens are now going to the Internet to look for medical information.<br /><br />“If it was a personal problem that I didn’t feel comfortable talking to anybody about, I would probably just look it up online,” says 18-year-old Joe.<br /><br />But the information teens find on web sites may not always be accurate. Experts say to help a child avoid bad information, parents should do their own search of teen-friendly medical web sites.<br /><br />Check them out. Then suggest the ones you like to your teen.<br /><br />“Internet sites that do that, just give clear health information … I think that would be probably a good idea,” says Dr. Dawn Swaby-Ellis, a pediatrician.<br /><br />But experts have an even better idea for parents: Find a real-life doctor their teen can trust.<br /><br />“The best guarantee for growing up a healthy, secure, communicative adolescent is for that adolescent to have a constant relationship with a health practitioner over time,” says Dr. Swaby-Ellis.<br /><br />Because while a doctor can promise teens the privacy they want, unlike the Internet, a doctor can also alert parents in the case of a serious health issue.<br /><br />“If there’s anything at all that we hear, during an interview with a child alone that sounds like they’re in trouble,” says Swaby-Ellis, then we’ll certainly let (the parent) know.”<br /><br />Tips for Parents<br />Previous studies have found that over 60 million Americans use the Internet for health and medical information. Teens make up a sizeable portion of this number; the Project estimates 45% of all children under the age of 18 have Internet access.<br /><br />Health-related web sites that targeted teens are appearing on the Internet. Sites such as:<br /><br /><br />iEmily.com<br />Zaphealth<br />THINK (Teenage Health Interactive Network)<br />Teen Growth<br />These sites are like interactive magazines written specifically for teens. Headlines from a recent ZapHealth page include: “My Friend's Acne” and “Guilt about Drinking.” Other topics on the site include “getting the dirt on important issues like kissing, piercing and buying condoms.”<br /><br />In addition to articles, these web sites offer:<br /><br /><br />Information and advice on general, sexual and emotional health<br />Information on fitness and sports<br />Family issues<br />Chat rooms where teens can talk with others with similar concerns<br />Bulletin boards where teens can post questions and receive answers from health care professionals<br />Links to other resources<br /><br />It’s easy, quick and convenient. An added appeal of these sites is that teens can get information anonymously, without having to talk to anyone. The Pew Project says that 16% of web health seekers do so to get information about a sensitive health topic that is difficult to talk about.<br /><br />Although a teen can get answers to some questions on these sites, the sites caution teens that they are not a substitute for regular healthcare; teens should see their healthcare providers as needed.<br /><br />ZapHealth also urges children under 18 to talk with their parents or guardians about any health or emotional issues.<br /><br /><br />References<br />The Pew Internet and American Life Project<br />ZapHealth </div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3699533594894588833.post-24954758506618610392008-12-10T13:10:00.000-08:002008-12-10T13:12:00.949-08:00Sue Scheff - Teen Sex, Teen Pregnancy, Social Networking and Parenting<a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_wqHnyL-kgD8/SUAwcjEIL3I/AAAAAAAAFzc/tXnmIaBMG6s/s1600-h/teen-pregnancynatcampn.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5278272030285246322" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 265px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 70px" alt="" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_wqHnyL-kgD8/SUAwcjEIL3I/AAAAAAAAFzc/tXnmIaBMG6s/s320/teen-pregnancynatcampn.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div>The news today? Teens floating photo's of themselves in their birthday suits, well, more or less. It seems more and more teens are not thinking about the consequences of sending questionable photos through email, texting, social networks etc. Parents need to explain to their child that placing such pictures may potentially cause them "not" to be accepted at a college or not get a job. More and more college admissions offices and potential employee's are Surfing the Net to find out more information on applicants. What you post today, may haunt you tomorrow!</div><br /><div><br />With all the discussions around the nude pictures - it brings up another concern - does this mean your teen is being recognized as a sex object? Does it say he or she is "easy"? </div><br /><div><br />Many people will ask, "where are the parents?", however it is almost impossible to monitor your teen 24/7, especially Online. As parents and adults everywhere, we need to tell our kids how this can harm them in the future. Their BFF today - may be their enemy next summer! Then where will those photos end up?<br />Keep informed - stay up to date with information for parents and teens. </div><br /><div><br />Visit <a href="http://www.thenationalcampaign.org/about-us/our-mission.aspx">The National Campaign to Help Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy.</a></div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3699533594894588833.post-32922002648118972622008-11-14T11:17:00.000-08:002008-11-14T11:18:49.903-08:00Sue Scheff - Teenage Pregnancy<strong>For parents, a teenage daughter becoming pregnant is a nightmare situation.</strong><br /><br />Every year, approx. 750,000 teenage girls become pregnant in the United States. That is roughly 1/3 of the age group's population, a startling fact! Worse, more than 2/3 of teens who become mothers will not graduate from high school.<br /><br />If you are a parent who has recently discovered that your teenage daughter is pregnant or may be pregnant, we understand your fear and pain. This is a difficult and serious time in both yours and your daughters' life.<br /><br />Our organization, <a href="http://helpyourteens.com/"><strong>Parent's Universal Resource Experts</strong> </a>(P.U.R.E.™) works closely with parents and teenagers in many troubling situations, such as unplanned pregnancy. We understand how you feel!<br /><br />No matter what happens, you and your daughter must work together to make the best choice for her and her unborn child. Your support and guidance is imperative as a mother. You CAN make it through as a family!<br /><br />We have created this website as a reference for parents dealing with teenage pregnancy in hope that we can help you through the situation and make the best decisions.<br /><br />Please visit our website, <a href="http://www.helpyourteens.com/">Help Your Teens</a>, for more information as well as support.<br /><br />Learn more - <a href="http://sue-scheff.org/">click here.</a>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3699533594894588833.post-7707215492684547972008-11-08T04:35:00.001-08:002008-11-08T04:35:50.658-08:00Sue Scheff: Sex on TV linked to teen pregnancy: studyWASHINGTON (AFP) — A study published Monday claimed it had established for the first time a link between TV programs with sexual content and teenage pregnancies.<br /><br />Researchers interviewed 2,000 adolescents aged 12 to 17 three times between 2001 and 2004 and found that those with the highest exposure to sex on television were twice as likely to be involved in a pregnancy than those with the least exposure.<br /><br />"Adolescents receive a considerable amount of information about sex through television and that programming typically does not highlight the risks and responsibilities of sex," said Anita Chandra, the lead author and a behavioral scientist at RAND, the nonprofit research organization that funded the study.<br /><br />"Our findings suggest that television may play a significant role in the high rates of teenage pregnancy in the United States," she said.<br /><br />Researchers said the study demonstrated that programs with sexual content create the perception there is little risk of sex without contraception.<br /><br />By the third interview, 744 of the 2,000 teenagers in the survey said they had engaged in sexual intercourse and 718 of the youths shared with RAND information about their pregnancy histories.<br /><br />Of that group, 91 teens -- 58 girls and 33 boys -- were involved in a pregnancy.<br /><br />The rate of teenage pregnancies has increased for the first time in 15 years, measuring 41.9 births per 1,000 Americans aged 15 to 19 years in 2006, according to the Center for Prevention and Disease Control (CDC).<br /><br />"The amount of sexual content on television has doubled in recent years, and there is little representation of safer sex practices in those portrayals," said Chandra.<br /><br />The findings have implications for broadcasters, parents and health care providers, she added.<br /><br />The US has one of the highest teen pregnancy rates among industrialized nations, with nearly one million adolescent females becoming pregnant each year, with the majority of these pregnancies unplanned, according to RAND.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3699533594894588833.post-54324236240073663492008-10-15T15:47:00.000-07:002008-10-15T15:49:02.679-07:00Parents Universal Resource Experts - Sue Scheff: Teen Sex and Depression<a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_wqHnyL-kgD8/SPZzNCuGlFI/AAAAAAAAFkM/1lFJiSkrMuI/s1600-h/teensex.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5257516282907366482" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_wqHnyL-kgD8/SPZzNCuGlFI/AAAAAAAAFkM/1lFJiSkrMuI/s320/teensex.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div>Source: <strong><a href="http://connectwithkids.com/">Connect with Kids</a></strong></div><br /><div></div><br /><div>“It hurts, because I care so much about him.”<br /><br />– Teagan, 15 years old<br /><br />Fifteen-year-old Teagan says her new boyfriend is wonderful. “I never thought anyone like Preston could come along,” Teagan says. “He’s the greatest guy I’ve ever known.”<br /><br />But is she as lucky as she thinks?<br /><br />Studies show that romantic involvement brings adolescents down, rather than up. What’s more, researchers at the University of North Carolina find that teen girls who are sexually active are twice as likely to be depressed compared to girls not having sex.<br /><br />But, even among abstinent teens who date, one of the problems is trust.<br /><br />“Say your boyfriend went off to work and never called you that day,” Teagan says. “And you talked every single day on the phone. I mean you’d be kind of concerned and kind of wondering why. And then someone comes along and says ‘well maybe he’s cheating on you…’”<br /><br />Combine adolescent insecurity with imagination and the result is a lot of questions: Where is he? Why doesn’t she call? Does he really like me? Why is she talking to that other boy?<br /><br />That’s where most of the stress comes in,” Teagan says. “Getting thoughts in your head about what might be going on, when it probably isn’t going on at all.”<br /><br />Experts say parents can help ease their child’s pain by listening and taking them seriously. It’s not puppy love to them, it’s real. “It hurts,” Teagan says, “because I care so much about him.”<br /><br />Experts also advise teaching your child that early relationships may hurt, but they’re indispensable. “They will have many relationships before they finally settle on a life mate,” says Cheryl Benefield, a school counselor. “Let them know that when things happen, it’s maybe just preparing them for a better relationship in the future.”<br /><br />Tips for Parents<br />According to the National Institute of Mental Health, boys and girls seem to be equally at risk for depressive disorders during childhood, but during adolescence, girls are twice as likely as boys to develop depression. Family history and stress are listed as factors, but another factor that often causes depression in girls is the break-up of a romantic relationship.<br /><br />The authors of a study conducted at Cornell University titled “You Don’t Bring Me Anything but Down: Adolescent Romance and Depression,” found that females become “more depressed than males in adolescence partly as a consequence of their involvement in romantic relationships.” The reason? According to the study, “females’ greater vulnerability to romantic involvement explains a large part of the emerging sex difference in depression during adolescence.”<br /><br />At any given time, five percent of children suffer from depression. Children under stress, who have experienced a loss, or who suffer from other disorders are at a higher risk for depression. Here are some signs of depression from the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry (if one or more of these signs of depression persist, parents should seek help):<br /><br />Frequent sadness, tearfulness, crying<br />Hopelessness<br />Decreased interest in activities, or inability to enjoy previously favorite activities<br />Persistent boredom; low energy<br />Social isolation, poor communication<br />Low self-esteem and guilt<br />Extreme sensitivity to rejection or failure<br />Increased irritability, anger or hostility<br />Difficulty with relationships<br />Frequent complaints of physical illnesses such as headaches and stomachaches<br />Frequent absences from school or poor performance in school<br />Poor concentration<br />A major change in eating and/or sleeping patterns<br />Talk of or efforts to run away from home<br />Thoughts or expressions of suicide or self destructive behavior<br />Getting an early diagnosis and medical treatment are critical for depressed children.<br /><br />Depression is a serious condition, which, if left untreated, can even become life threatening. Suicide is the third leading cause of death among young people, leading to nearly 4,000 deaths a year. The rate has tripled since 1960. Therapy can help teenagers understand why they are depressed and learn how to handle stressful situations. Treatment may consist of individual, group or family counseling. Medications prescribed by a psychiatrist may be needed to help teens feel better.<br /><br />Ways of treating depression include:<br /><br />Psychotherapy: to explore events and feelings that are painful and troubling. Psychotherapy also teaches coping skills.<br />Cognitive-behavioral therapy: to help teens change negative patterns of thinking and behaving.<br />Interpersonal therapy: to focus on ways of developing healthier relationships at home and school.<br />Medication: to relieve some symptoms of depression (often prescribed along with therapy).<br />References<br />Journal of Health and Social Behavior<br />National Institute of Mental Health<br />American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry<br />National Mental Health Association<br />University of North Carolina </div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3699533594894588833.post-54708326193162148372008-09-30T04:47:00.001-07:002008-09-30T04:49:17.403-07:00Parents Universal Resource Experts - About Birth Control: What Parents Need to Know<a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_wqHnyL-kgD8/SOISEONNGCI/AAAAAAAAENI/lIG8PFLPRew/s1600-h/kidshealth.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5251779979209676834" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_wqHnyL-kgD8/SOISEONNGCI/AAAAAAAAENI/lIG8PFLPRew/s320/kidshealth.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div>Source: <a href="http://www.education.com/partner/articles/kidshealth/">The Nemours Foundation</a></div><div> </div><div>One of the toughest decisions that a lot of teens face is whether to have sex. Teens who decide to become sexually active must also take responsibility to stay protected from unplanned pregnancy and <a href="http://www.education.com/reference/article/Ref_STDs">sexually transmitted diseases (STDs)</a>.</div><br /><div><br />In the United States, the <a href="http://www.education.com/reference/article/Ref_When_Your_Teen">teenage pregnancy</a> rate is higher than in many other countries. Approximately 1 million teen girls become pregnant every year and most of them don't intend to. In addition to preventing unplanned pregnancies, sexually active teens must protect themselves from STDs — which means that condoms must be used every time.</div><br /><div><br />The most effective method of birth control is abstinence, which means no sexual intercourse. Abstinence is the only way that couples can be 100% sure they will not have to deal with pregnancy or STDs.</div><br /><div><br />The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) has said that sex education that includes information about abstinence and birth control is the most effective way to keep down the rate of teen pregnancy.</div><br /><div><br />As a parent, you play a key role in this education. It's important that your kids feel, from a young age, that they can come to you with a question about sexuality, no matter what it is. It helps if you treat sexuality as a natural part of development, not something dirty or embarrassing.</div><br /><div><br />Providing the facts is vital, but it's also wise to give your kids a sense of where you stand. Teens, especially, may seem uninterested in your views on sex and birth control, or even your values in general, but they usually take in more than you think.</div><br /><div><br />At times, kids may not feel comfortable approaching parents with questions about sexuality. That's OK. But it's important that they have a trusted adult — like a teacher, school counselor, school nurse, or doctor — to talk with about birth control and other issues related to sex.</div><br /><div><br /><strong>Birth Control Methods</strong></div><br /><div><br />Couples who do choose to have sex have many effective birth control methods to choose from. Check out the articles below to learn important facts about these different options. You may be surprised — some popular ones aren't as effective as many people think:</div><br /><div><br /><a href="http://www.education.com/reference/article/Ref_About_Abstinence">Abstinence</a><br /><a href="http://www.education.com/reference/article/Ref_About_Birth_Patch">Birth control patch</a><br /><a href="http://www.education.com/reference/article/Ref_About_Birth_Pill">Birth control pill</a><br /><a href="http://www.education.com/reference/article/Ref_About_Birth_Ring">Birth control ring</a><br /><a href="http://www.education.com/reference/article/Ref_About_Birth_Shot">Birth control shot</a><br /><a href="http://www.education.com/reference/article/Ref_About_Cervical_Cap">Cervical cap</a><br /><a href="http://www.education.com/reference/article/Ref_About_Condoms">Condoms</a><br /><a href="http://www.education.com/reference/article/Ref_About_Diaphragm">Diaphragm</a><br /><a href="http://www.education.com/reference/article/Ref_About_Emergency">Emergency contraception (morning-after pill)</a><br /><a href="http://www.education.com/reference/article/Ref_About_IUD">IUD</a><br /><a href="http://www.education.com/reference/article/Ref_About_Rhythm_Method">Rhythm method</a><br /><a href="http://www.education.com/reference/article/Ref_About_Spermicide">Spermicide</a><br /><a href="http://www.education.com/reference/article/Ref_About_Withdrawal">Withdrawal</a> </div><br /><div><br />Reviewed by: <a href="http://www.education.com/reference/article/Ref_Expert_Reviewers">Larissa Hirsch, MD</a>Date reviewed: January 2007<br />Note: All information is for educational purposes only. For specific medical advice, diagnoses, and treatment, consult your doctor.</div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3699533594894588833.post-41917454688414818972008-09-23T04:41:00.000-07:002008-09-23T05:18:35.968-07:00Parents Universal Resource Experts - Sue Scheff - Tips for When Your Child Starts DatingSource: <a href="http://www.education.com/partner/articles/onetoughjob/">OneToughJob</a><br /><br /><strong>Your Child's Behavior at 12 -15 years old</strong><br /><br />As your child moves from childhood into the teenage years, she will encounter many social and cultural challenges. It is an exciting time and yet a scary time for your child. As she moves more toward independence, she will be convinced she knows everything, you know nothing and you were literally born yesterday. In fact, at this time, she needs you more than ever. By knowing what to expect at this stage of your child's life, you are better equipped to interact effectively with her. By communicating clearly with your child and listening to what she has to say and the emotions she is expressing, you can help your child through this stage.<br /><br /><strong>Tips for Dating</strong><br /><br />1.Talk with your child about what she hopes for from dating and from relationships.<br />2.Let her know your concerns and hopes for her as she goes out on dates.<br />3.Know who your child is hanging out with and dating.<br />4.Talk with the parents of those kids.<br />5.Set clear rules about who can be with her in your home when there are no adults present.<br />6.Teach manners and how to be respectful of others.<br />7.Let your child know she can always call home if she is uncomfortable or feels worried.<br />8.Tell your child to have fun—dating should be fun.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3699533594894588833.post-82225325167638357442008-09-18T14:49:00.001-07:002008-09-18T14:50:57.694-07:00Sue Scheff: Parent-Teen Sex Talk<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_wqHnyL-kgD8/SNLM-fUmGNI/AAAAAAAAEHQ/ymUy-pJ9heE/s1600-h/parentteensex.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5247481889771886802" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_wqHnyL-kgD8/SNLM-fUmGNI/AAAAAAAAEHQ/ymUy-pJ9heE/s320/parentteensex.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div> </div><div>Source: Connect with Kids</div><div> </div><div>“I always get a little bit nervous because I always worry about what they might ask me about my own life.”<br /><br />– Judy Crim, Mother<br /><br />When 12-year-old Sean Crim has a question about sex he asks his mother. “I would probably rather get information about sex from my parents. They always tell me the truth and they’ve never really lied to me about anything,” he says.<br /><br />But for his mom, talking about sex isn’t easy. “I always get a little bit nervous because I always worry about what they might ask me about my own life,” says Judy Crim.<br /><br />It’s an issue for lots of parents. If your children ask about your life before marriage, how would you answer? Sean’s mom says it’s happened to her.<br /><br />Judy says, “We talk about what was going on when I was a teenager, what teenagers were actively doing. And they’ll say mom did you do any of that?”<br /><br />It’s an awkward question. Experts say if you are too uncomfortable…you don’t have to answer.<br /><br />Leola Reis of Planned Parenthood says, “They are still the parent and some of that is not really appropriate. I don’t think you need to lie, I think you can withhold that information. ‘This conversation is not really about me and what I did. It’s what my hopes are for you. And let me tell you some of the things I’ve learned.’”<br /><br />But if you decide to talk about your past, experts say don’t lie, and remember that you don’t have to say too much. Reis suggests sentences like ”I’m not really comfortable with some of the things I did as a young person.’”<br /><br />Still, your past can be a lesson for kids about avoiding mistakes. Judy Crim says, “I can also offer them if I made a choice to do something, what regret did I have to live with? What guilt do I have to live with? And how did that affect my life?”<br /><br /><strong>Tips for Parents</strong> </div><div><br />Recent studies have shown a decrease in the prevalence of many sexual behaviors among high school students throughout the United States, including sexual intercourse. Further, studies from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention show the percentage of sexually active students who used a condom at last intercourse continued to increase.<br /><br />Even though the number of sexually active teens is in decline, the percentage of sexually active teens is still alarming. Consider the following statistics taken from a recent Youth Risk Behavior Survey:<br /><br />Nationwide, 47.8% of students had ever had sexual intercourse (Table 61). Overall, the prevalence of having had sexual intercourse was higher among male (49.8%) than female (45.9%) students; higher among black male (72.6%) and Hispanic male (58.2%) than black female (60.9%) and Hispanic female (45.8%) students, respectively; and higher among 9th-grade male (38.1%) than 9th-grade female (27.4%) students.<br />7.1% of students had had sexual intercourse for the first time before age 13 years<br />14.9% of students had had sexual intercourse with four or more persons during their life<br />35.0% of students had had sexual intercourse with at least one person during the 3 months before the survey<br />Among the 35.0% of currently sexually active students nationwide, 61.5% reported that either they or their partner had used a condom during last sexual intercourse<br />Open communication and accurate information from parents increase the chance that teens will postpone sex. According to the American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry, in talking with your child or adolescent, it is helpful to:<br /><br />Encourage your child to talk and ask questions.<br />Maintain a calm and non-critical atmosphere for discussions.<br />Use words that are understandable and comfortable.<br />Try to determine your child’s level of knowledge and understanding.<br />Keep your sense of humor and don’t be afraid to talk about your own discomfort.<br />Relate sex to love, intimacy, caring and respect for oneself and one’s partner.<br />Be open in sharing your values and concerns.<br />Discuss the importance of responsibility for choices and decisions.<br />Help your child to consider the pros and cons of choices.<br />By developing open, honest and ongoing communication about responsibility, sex and choice, parents can help their youngsters learn about sex in a healthy and positive manner.<br /><br />References<br />Centers for Disease Control & Prevention<br />American Social Health Association<br />American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry </div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3699533594894588833.post-16136352112098727632008-09-02T09:29:00.000-07:002008-09-02T09:30:14.656-07:00Is Teen Pregnancy on the Rise? by Sue ScheffTeenage Pregnancy<br /><br />Every year approximately 750,000 teenage girls become pregnant in the United States. This is roughly 1/3 of the age group’s population, a startling fact. Worse, more than 2/3 of teens who become mother will not graduate high school. Many young teen girls that are suffering with low self worth or feelings of not being loved believe that having a baby will give them a purpose in life. Unfortunately they are not looking at the whole picture and the reality of raising a child.<br /><br />These girls are not emotionally prepared to make such a major decision in their young life – yet many are in this situation. As a parent, we need to keep the lines of communication open, as hard as that is, it is necessary.<br /><br />If you are parent who recently discovered that your teenage daughter is pregnant or may be pregnant, we understand your fear and pain. This is a difficult and very serious time in both of you and your daughter’s life.<br /><br />No matter what happens, you and your daughter must work together to make the best choice for her and her unborn child. Your support and guidance is imperative as a parent. You can and will make it through this as a family.<br /><br />For more information on Teen Pregnancy visit <a href="http://www.sue-scheff.org/">http://www.sue-scheff.org/</a> .Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3699533594894588833.post-48550121297908283772008-08-18T12:07:00.000-07:002008-08-18T12:08:18.081-07:00Teen Pregnacy Options<strong>Teenage Preganancy: Options</strong><br /><br />Most teenage girls have been through at least one sexual education class and know their three basic options for the pregnancy. As a parent, it is important to understand these choices and learn as much as possible about each as so that you can offer her advice. Many times, a conversation between mother and daughter brings up important ideas about each option that the other had not thought of.<br /><br />Here we link you to informative sites about each option:<br /><br /><a href="http://www.getrealwithyourself.com/parent/consider.htm">Becoming A Parent</a><br /><a href="http://www.plannedparenthood.org/birth-control-pregnancy/abortion/choosing-abortion.htm">Abortion</a><br /><a href="http://www.focusonyourchild.com/relation/art1/A0000734.html">Adoption</a>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3699533594894588833.post-41862206583581702302008-08-10T07:06:00.000-07:002008-08-10T07:08:25.077-07:00Parents Universal Resource Experts (Sue Scheff) Talking the Talk - Discussing Sex with your kids<a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_wqHnyL-kgD8/SJ72J0l7ZgI/AAAAAAAADyY/tNAsD7meFzA/s1600-h/newsweek.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5232890465648076290" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_wqHnyL-kgD8/SJ72J0l7ZgI/AAAAAAAADyY/tNAsD7meFzA/s320/newsweek.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div><br /><strong>Discussing sex with your tweens and teens can help them make better choices. Here's how.</strong></div><br /><div><br />Temma Ehrenfeld<br />Newsweek Web Exclusive<br />Updated: 10:28 AM ET Jul 31, 2008</div><br /><div><br />What kids think about sex might surprise you, but what they're doing sexually—and when they're doing it—might surprise you even more. In a study this year of more than a 1,000 tweens (kids between the ages 11 and 14), commissioned by Liz Claiborne Inc. and loveisrespect.org, nearly half said they'd had a boy- or girlfriend, and one in four said that oral sex or going "all the way" is part of a tween romance. The parents' view? Only 7 percent of parents surveyed in this study think their own child has gone any further than "making out."<br />The whole subject of sex is so delicate that some parents put off talking to kids about it, believing their child is still too young, or because they're not sure what to say. </div><br /><div></div><br /><div>They "finally sit down to have the Big Talk," says Dr. Mark Schuster, chief of general pediatrics at Children's Hospital Boston, "and it turns out their teen is already having sex." (The average age of first intercourse in the United States is 16, according to the Centers for Disease Control)The good news is that there's plenty of evidence indicating that kids whose parents do discuss sex with them are more cautious than their peers—more likely to put off sex or use contraception. </div><br /><div></div><br /><div>They also have fewer partners. Coaching for parents helps, as well. Parents who participated in a training program about how to have those difficult conversations, Schuster reports, were six times more likely than a control group to have discussed condoms with their children. So what did the parents learn? Here are nine "talking sex" tips:</div><br /><div><br />1. Find the moment. Instead of saying "it's time to talk about you-know," let the topic arise naturally—say, during a love scene in a video, or while passing a couple on a park bench. It helps to think about opening lines in advance.</div><br /><div><br />2. Don't be vague about your own feelings. You know you don't want your ninth grader getting pregnant, but is oral sex OK? How do you feel about your daughter going steady or dating several boys casually? Consider the messages you want your kids to hear.</div><br /><div><br />3. Anticipate the roadblocks that a teen or tween might set up. If they tend to say "uh huh," try asking open-ended questions or suggesting a variety of possible ways someone might feel in a relevant situation.</div><br /><div><br />4. Be a good listener. Avoid lecturing and don't interrupt once your child opens up. Restate in your own words what you hear and identify feelings.</div><br /><div><br />5. Help your child consider the pros and cons of sexual choices.</div><br /><div><br />6. Relate sex and physical intimacy to love, caring and respect for themselves and their partner.</div><br /><div><br />7. Teach strategies to manage sexual pressure. It may not be obvious to your daughter that she can suggest going to the movies or a restaurant instead of lounging with her boyfriend on a sofa without adult supervision. Or she may not know she can set and stick to a clear rule (such as no touching below the waist). Discuss the fact that "no means no." A simple strategy like getting up and going to the bathroom can give a girl time to regroup.</div><br /><div><br />8. Don't be afraid to get down to specifics. If your teenage daughter or son is spending every afternoon alone with a main squeeze, and you're simply hoping they're using condoms, go ahead and ask whether they are sexually active and using birth control. You can buy a box of condoms and talk about how to use them—practice on a cucumber. A good laugh won't hurt your relationship.</div><br /><div><br />9. Make the conversation ongoing—not a talk that happens once or twice. For more tips on talking to kids about sex and other sensitive issues, visit <a href="http://www.talkingwithkids.org/sex.html" target="_blank">Children Now</a>, a nonprofit nonpartisan organization's guide to talking to kids of all ages about sexual subjects. Or The American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry's "<a href="http://www.aacap.org/cs/root/facts_for_families/talking_to_your_kids_about_sex" target="_blank">Facts for Families</a>."<br /><br /></div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3699533594894588833.post-4414786409667541752008-07-30T08:22:00.001-07:002008-07-30T08:23:57.318-07:00Teen Dating Violence<a href="http://bp2.blogger.com/_wqHnyL-kgD8/SJCHLNfMTkI/AAAAAAAADqo/ijxlJYpAjwQ/s1600-h/teenlove.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5228827794045947458" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="http://bp2.blogger.com/_wqHnyL-kgD8/SJCHLNfMTkI/AAAAAAAADqo/ijxlJYpAjwQ/s320/teenlove.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div>Source: <a href="http://connectwithkids.com/">Connect with Kids</a></div><div> </div><div>“I’ve never had one guy come into my life that hasn’t hurt me.”<br /><br />– Jenny, 18 years old<br /><br />Jenny, 18, has been hurt as many times as she’s been in love. At age 13, her boyfriend was physically abusive.<br /><br />“He grabbed me by my neck one time, and I had fingerprints, bruising,” she explains.<br /><br />Later, Jenny dated Mateo.<br /><br />“He promised me, he said I promise you, I’ll never hurt you like they did,” Jenny says tearfully.<br /><br />“And I promised her that, but I didn’t keep my promise,” Mateo, 17, admits. “Verbal abuse, emotional. You name it,” he says.<br /><br />Research in the Journal of American Medicine finds that 42% of teens have been the victim of dating violence. 17% have been the perpetrator.<br /><br />“Violent activity and dating violence begins early in adolescence; you know, begins when dating begins,” says psychiatrist Dr. Lynn Ponton, author of a book about the dating lives of teenagers.<br /><br />She says too often kids are so excited to have their first boyfriend or girlfriend that they rush into a relationship. They become intimate too soon, before they even really get to know each other. By the time they know their partner is abusive, a lot of damage is already done.<br /><br />Other research shows that girls in violent dating relationships are more likely to experiment with drugs, develop eating disorders and attempt suicide.<br /><br />Experts say that parents must convince kids to slow down.<br /><br />“By, I think, by actually setting up structures for kids to participate in where they get to know the people first before they’re off with them privately,” says Dr. David Fenstermaker, a clinical psychologist.<br /><br />He suggests that group dates are safer. At the bowling alley, the water park or the ice rink, kids can get to know each other, and slowly discover what really lies in the heart of their date.<br /><br /><strong>Tips for Parents</strong> </div><div><br />‘Dating violence’ may seem like a vague, murky term, but the National Center for Injury Prevention and Control defines ‘dating violence’ very specifically:<br /><br />Dating Violence: “The perpetration or threat of an act of violence by at least one member of an unmarried couple on the other member within the context of dating or courtship. This violence encompasses any form of sexual assault, physical violence, and verbal or emotional abuse.”<br /><br />How often does dating violence happen? Estimates vary, but the NCIPC offers these statistics:<br /><br />24% of 8th and 9th graders have been victims of nonsexual dating violence.<br />8% of 8th and 9th graders have been victims of sexual dating violence. </div><div><br />Among high school students, the average prevalence rate for nonsexual dating violence is 22%.<br />Among college students the rate is 32%. </div><div><br />27% of college females have been victims of rape or attempted rape since age 14.<br />Over half of 1,000 females at a large urban university surveyed said they had experienced some form of “unwanted sex.” </div><div><br />Women are 6 times more likely than men to experience violence at the hands of an intimate partner.<br />According to the Massachusetts Department of Education, teen dating violence follows a pattern which is similar to adult domestic violence. The major elements of this pattern are:<br /><br />Violence that affects people from all socio-economic, racial and ethnic groups. </div><div><br />Repeated violence that escalates. </div><div><br />Violence that increases in severity the longer the relationship continues.<br />Violence and abusive behaviors are interchanged with apologies and promises to change.<br />Increase danger for the victim when trying to terminate the relationship.<br />Occurrence in heterosexual and gay and lesbian relationships.<br />How can you tell if your teenager may be suffering from dating violence? Here are some signs from the Massachusetts Department of Education. </div><div><br /><strong>Is your child involved with someone who:<br /></strong><br />Is overly possessive and demonstrating a real need to control<br />Is jealous to the extreme point where it becomes an obsession<br />Is into controlling your child’s everyday events<br />Is prone to violent outbursts<br />Is a person who has a history of poor relationships<br />Is infringing upon your child’s freedom to make choices for himself/herself<br />Is limiting the time your child spends with other people<br />Is using external pressure to influence decision making<br />Is into passing blame and denying their own mistakes<br />Is in the habit of using put downs or playing mind games<br />Is not a person who can be disagreed with easily<br />Is encouraging your child to keep secrets<br />Is causing your child to become more withdrawn </div><div><br />And for teenagers trying to get out of a violent relationship, the following advice from the Boulder (CO) Police Department:<br /><br />Tell your parents, a friend, a counselor, a clergyman, or someone else whom you trust and who can help. </div><div><br />The more isolated you are from friends and family, the more control the abuser has over you.<br />Alert the school counselor or security officer. Keep a daily log of the abuse. </div><div><br />Do not meet your partner alone.<br />Do not let him or her in your home or car when you are alone.<br />Avoid being alone at school, your job, on the way to and from places.<br />Tell someone where you are going and when you plan to be back.<br />Plan and rehearse what you would do if your partner became abusive. </div><div><br /><strong>References</strong><br />National Center for Injury Protection and Control<br />Massachusetts Department of Education<br />Boulder (CO) Police Department<br />Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia </div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3699533594894588833.post-75858623202151839752008-07-21T08:26:00.000-07:002008-07-21T08:28:45.667-07:00Teen PregnancyEvery year, approx. 750,000 teenage girls become pregnant in the United States. That is roughly 1/3 of the age group's population, a startling fact! Worse, more than 2/3 of teens who become mothers will not graduate from high school.<br /><br />If you are a parent who has recently discovered that your teenage daughter is pregnant or may be pregnant, we understand your fear and pain. This is a difficult and serious time in both yours and your daughters' life.<br /><br />Our organization, <a href="http://helpyourteens.com/">Parent's Universal Resource Experts </a>(P.U.R.E.™) works closely with parents and teenagers in many troubling situations, such as unplanned pregnancy. We understand how you feel!<br /><br />No matter what happens, you and your daughter must work together to make the best choice for her and her unborn child. Your support and guidance is imperative as a mother. You CAN make it through as a family!<br /><br />We have created this website as a reference for parents dealing with teenage pregnancy in hope that we can help you through the situation and make the best decisions.<br /><br />Learn more about <a href="http://sue-scheff.org/">Teen Pregnancy</a>.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3699533594894588833.post-6707441684937547512008-07-07T05:58:00.001-07:002008-07-07T05:59:20.750-07:00Sue Scheff: Learn More About Social Workers<a href="http://bp3.blogger.com/_wqHnyL-kgD8/SHIS-Ui61RI/AAAAAAAADa4/tAvN-SQd27c/s1600-h/socialworkers.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5220255779952186642" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="http://bp3.blogger.com/_wqHnyL-kgD8/SHIS-Ui61RI/AAAAAAAADa4/tAvN-SQd27c/s200/socialworkers.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div>Every social worker is uniquely qualified to help people right in their own environment, by looking at all the different aspects of their life and culture. We work to ensure your personal well-being, prevent crises and to counsel individuals, families, and communities. We make sure people get the help they need, from the best resources available. And for more than 100 years, we’ve been doing just that.</div><br /><div><br />Visit: <a href="http://www.helpstartshere.org/about_social_workers.html">http://www.helpstartshere.org/about_social_workers.html</a> </div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3699533594894588833.post-68824683578805449912008-06-29T06:39:00.001-07:002008-06-29T06:40:44.975-07:00Sue Scheff: Teen PregnancyLearn more about <a href="http://sue-scheff.org/"><strong>Teen Pregnancy</strong> </a>and the growing concerns parents have today.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3699533594894588833.post-8878219361808445432008-06-20T07:16:00.000-07:002008-06-20T07:17:56.501-07:00Sue Scheff: Teenage Pregnancy is on the Rise<a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_wqHnyL-kgD8/SFu78ZAeoWI/AAAAAAAADLU/SFUCdx4o8Kk/s1600-h/natlcamppreg.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5213967639790920034" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_wqHnyL-kgD8/SFu78ZAeoWI/AAAAAAAADLU/SFUCdx4o8Kk/s200/natlcamppreg.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div>Many people have seen the recent news stories on the 17 girls in MA that made a pact to get pregnant and succeeded. <a href="http://www.boston.com/news/local/articles/2008/06/19/teens_had_pact_to_get_pregnant_report_says/">The Boston Globe </a>article details this distressing situation.</div><br /><div><br /><a href="http://www.thenationalcampaign.org/">The National Campaign</a> seeks to improve the well-being of children, youth, families, and the nation by preventing unplanned and teen pregnancy. Take a moment to visit this website of educational resources.</div><br /><div><br />***********************************</div><br /><div><br /><strong>For parents, a teenage daughter becoming pregnant is a nightmare situation.</strong><br /><br />Every year, approx. 750,000 teenage girls become pregnant in the United States. That is roughly 1/3 of the age group’s population, a startling fact! Worse, more than 2/3 of teens who become mothers will not graduate from high school.</div><br /><div><br />If you are a parent who has recently discovered that your teenage daughter is pregnant or may be pregnant, we understand your fear and pain. This is a difficult and serious time in both yours and your daughters’ life.</div><br /><div><br />Our organization, <a href="http://helpyourteens.com/">Parent’s Universal Resource Experts </a>(P.U.R.E.™) works closely with parents and teenagers in many troubling situations, such as unplanned pregnancy. We understand how you feel!</div><br /><div><br />No matter what happens, you and your daughter must work together to make the best choice for her and her unborn child. Your support and guidance is imperative as a mother. You CAN make it through as a family!</div><br /><div><br />We have created this <a href="http://sue-scheff.org/">website </a>as a reference for parents dealing with teenage pregnancy in hope that we can help you through the situation and make the best decisions. </div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3699533594894588833.post-25782289164915546742008-06-14T06:55:00.000-07:002008-06-14T06:57:02.687-07:00Sue Scheff: Tough Talks with your Teen<a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_wqHnyL-kgD8/SFPOCWaE4GI/AAAAAAAADCg/1Ibuqg7GlIM/s1600-h/ParentAdvice.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5211735733567807586" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_wqHnyL-kgD8/SFPOCWaE4GI/AAAAAAAADCg/1Ibuqg7GlIM/s200/ParentAdvice.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div>By <a href="http://education.com/">Shoulder to Shoulder<br /></a><br />It’s not easy talking about sex, drugs, gangs and violence with our teens. But it’s a “must do.” Here are a few pointers and tips for talking with teens about the very real issues they face.<br /><br />Timing is Everything </div><div><br />Know that teens will catch us off guard when they decide to ask questions about sex or other “tough” topics. Resist the urge to flee. Try saying, “I’m glad you came to me with that question.” This gives us time to think of a response, and will let teens know they can come to parents for advice. It’s important to answer the question right away, rather than put off a teen by saying something like - “you’re too young to know that!” Chances are, the subject has already come up at school and they’re already getting “advice” from their friends. When teens ask questions, look at it as an opportunity to help them learn by sharing our thoughts.<br /><br />Practice Makes Perfect </div><div><br />As parents, anticipation is our best friend. Anticipate what teens’ questions may be about sex, drugs or alcohol, then think about your responses ahead of time. What to say? It’s different for each family, but become familiar with typical questions and behaviors that occur during the teen years. Do a little digging around popular teen Web sites to find out what’s hot in a teen’s world.<br /><br />Is It Hot In Here? </div><div><br />If you’re feeling embarrassed or uncomfortable about a question your teen asks, say so. Acknowledging your own discomfort allows your kids to acknowledge theirs - and may make everyone feel a little less awkward all around. It’s also okay for parents to set limits. For example, you do not have to give specific answers about your own teen behaviors.<br /><br />Read entire article here: <a href="http://www.education.com/reference/article/Ref_Tough_Talks_your/">http://www.education.com/reference/article/Ref_Tough_Talks_your/</a> <br /><br /></div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05047519231630513506noreply@blogger.com